coffee Convos

Let’s be real.

When we navigate through life, sometimes we find ourselves in situations where we have such strong beliefs that we refuse to see the other side.

Sure, we acknowledge it, but admitting when we are wrong is a different process altogether.

Here’s what I have learned so far.

1: Start somewhere

It doesn’t matter where or when you admit you’re wrong. The main point is to start. That’s where the majority of the fight is.

In arguments I believed I was right in, I fought for my voice until the very end. What I refused to see, though, was the other side of my argument.

As the saying goes: There’s always two sides to a story.

Although I kept an open mind most of the time, I still fell into the same pit every so often.

It wasn’t until another conversation that I decided to listen (without judgment or reason) to the other person’s viewpoint that I realized I was missing information from my side to justify my position.

It happens; missing pieces to the story are all we need to see the big picture.

Admitting that I was wrong hurt, yes, but I was able to grow from that experience. Imagine if I had refused to admit that I may have been mistaken. I never would have held myself accountable for fighting a losing battle.

2: It gets better

It can be uncomfortable to hold yourself accountable out loud at first, but it’s natural to be painful when you’re growing.

How you react to being uncomfortable defines whether you’re growing or not.

For example, when you’re uncomfortable holding yourself accountable and standing on business, you know you’re growing. Conversely, if you dislike being uncomfortable, you just stay stagnant and refuse to grow.

Be uncomfortable by holding yourself accountable for your actions. The feeling will subside, and what you’re left with will make you powerful instead of powerless.

Until next time,

Sweet T.