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Let’s be real.

We’ve all been to the point in our lives, where we think we accept everybody, regardless of who they are or where they come from.

Don’t get me wrong, that’s a good thing.

But when we use those same standard in a romantic relationship, that’s where we sometimes get burned.

Take it from me, I’ve been there and done that. It was a harsh wake up call.

I decided in life, because of how I was brought up and the things I was exposed to, that I wouldn’t judge a book by their cover.

So, when the time came and a romantic interest came into my life, I decided to take my own advice.

Despite the voice in the back of my head to ask these questions before getting to know the said ‘romantic interest’.

Well, I bet you can guess how that went.

Creating standards in your life, whether it’s for a romantic relationship, who you want to be as a person, or the type of company you want to be around, doing this simple step will weed out those who genuinely don’t belong in your circle.

Does that mean you have to cut out every person who doesn’t meet you standards? No. There’s such things as acquaintances.

Friends who you only see once in a blue moon. Somebody you care about as a person, but for your own mental health, needs to be a once in a little while ‘let’s get coffee’ type of person.

Being able to create those standards will elevate your life in a way, that you know what you deserve and you’re actively seeking that out.

Don’t lower your standards for any noun.

You’re better than that.

Create those standards. But never look down on somebody just because they don’t fit in your standards. Judging a book by it’s cover and looking down on a book because of it’s said cover is two very different things.

Be the former, not the latter.

It will be challenging. Setting standards for yourself if based on a trial and error type of thing. We don’t know what we want until we’re in or experienced that situation.

Regardless, the outcome will be beneficial to your life.

Until next time,

Sweet T.

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